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3 reasons why you should never marry a person who has never been single.
I watched a Tik Tok video by Benjamin Zulu Ke, a relationship coach, who gave advice about never marrying someone who has not been single for at least two years.
While the time may vary for different people, the point is that a person should have been single for a considerable period before being with someone. It has its benefits.
When a person has been single for a certain period of time, especially after a break up, it is time for self discovery and healing. It may seem like a lonely time, but I have been there. It was a good place to be in. I find it hard to understand why some people don’t enjoy their own company or spend time with close friends and family.
- A person who has never been single does not truly know themselves:
I can say without a doubt that this is true. Being single is an identity. Just like you were born alone, it is your identity. You learn what works best for you, you figure out what you like and do not like, what you can tolerate from a person, your skills, hobbies, and so many other things that make you unique.
“They don't discover who they are or what they want in life, their identity is always intertwined with the man or woman they are with.” Benjamin Zuluke
If you keep jumping from one person to another, it means you don't know who you are, what you want, and you can basically fall for anyone or be with anyone. The single phase is your self discovery phase, it is also your self development phase. When you feel fulfilled as a single person, you can bring someone into your life to complement it.
I enjoy my own company. I can go shopping on my own, get dressed to go to dinner, go outdoors, and people watch or discover new places. It doesn't mean I can't date. The only difference is when I go on dates, it is an experience and enjoying the other person’s company.
2. Sex is usually the mission:
You always want someone to have sex with, you don't know how to stay…
