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Lola Os
4 min readAug 19, 2022

I could not convince him otherwise. He felt it was wise to have a small wedding. He talked about buying our dream home and having a big wedding would push the plan back financially.

I didn't want to agree with the plan, but financially it made sense. Most of my friends got married during COVID-19 and they were able to reduce costs of having a huge wedding. Lucy from HR said it was the best decision of her life. Everyone was on Zoom, they had a great time catching up with everyone.

We decided to have a court wedding, and he promised a few years to come, our vow renewal means we can have a nice reception with our friends and family.

“How can my first daughter get married like a pregnant teenager?” my father asked as he put his newspaper on his lap after I dropped the news like a time bomb.

I knew what he meant, the wedding plan sounded like I was a teenager who was getting married simply because she was pregnant out of wedlock. The only difference was that I was not pregnant.

“Dad, we need to save money.” I found myself telling my dad. I didn't sound convinced telling such an untruth. All my life, I had a Disney dream wedding in my head, a lovely wedding dress, a noteworthy wedding with the most important details highlighted.

“And since when did money become a problem?” my father asked with emphasis on the word ‘money”.

I was quiet.

“I mean, it's your choice. You are our first child, and we would rather have something more elaborate. I have waited for this moment all my life,” he said. I could see his eyes were getting misty.

It was the moment I wished Brian would not think of what would benefit him, but everyone. I was sacrificing what I would want for my wedding because of love. My parents were going to miss giving their first child away in grand style, like they would have wanted.

“We would have a nice vow renewal,” I replied.

Lola Os

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