Every year my mom asks the same question
“When are you getting married?”
“All your mates are married already they have kids at least two. What is holding you back?”
“What is the delay? Are you being picky?”
These are my mother’s famous words whenever I go visit her.
At this point I have met almost every single son of her friend, a church member, a coworker, or anyone she’s affiliated with.
These random hook ups or rather match making have never worked out and she is frustrated.
When she was my age, she already had me and my siblings, so why the delay?
The thirties of her generation and this generation are totally different. This generation is in no rush to do things. Most people marry in their late thirties or early forties.
There is the pressure to have accomplished so much including getting married. Marriage is not an accomplishment. It is just one of the stages in life that we can get to. If one is lucky to get married and stay married that’s fine and they are truly lucky. Others have gotten married early and become divorced.
There is no definition of time limit on living life. Societal expectations of where we should be are unrealistic and unsustainable. It…
