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No one is perfect…
There is this ideology about marrying the prefect one for you.
Let me burst your bubble. Such a person does not exist. You can leave a partner because they lack something you want and end up with one who you won’t even want to be bunkmates in Guantanamo Bay with..
The most important thing you need is commitment. Commitment that no matter how hard things get, you would choose the other person and you would work things out. It doesn’t mean you will choose a person at the detriment of your emotional and physical health. Do not stay in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship because of commitment. This requires effort in making things work, find out what your similarities and differences are and work with each other to balance out.
You need someone who is willing to learn and grow with you.. This is very important. Relationships are a deeper level of friendship and two people cannot walk together unless they agree. If you don’t understand, your partner can teach you, but you also have to be teachable, not arrogant or difficult to discuss with.
Communication is essential in relationships and it makes it enjoyable. It sucks to be around people ho make you walk on eggshells . You have to say the right things in order not to offend them, you are not sure what would make them explode. You don’t need anyone to gaslight you either. Communicate your wants and needs, communicate what makes you happy or sad, communicate your boundaries…
